Childless women need to stop invading Discussions for mothers

Too many parenting discussions have been invaded by childless women making derogatory comments and meddling in our safe space. Mothers should have a safe space to talk about problems and issues as well as give and get advice from other mothers. 

Facebook, blogs, and twitter have had many discussions about the issues that surround parenting. Everything is discussed from child support, child care, postpartum depression, to co-parenting with an ex. In many groups, we always have a handful of childless women chime in to brag about how they were super responsible with birth control, or how they refuse to have children until they are in the perfect situation. Child less women will come bragging about how they are able to travel, get 5 degrees, and how they have so much free time to relax because they don't have children.
I have no problems or hate towards women that choose not to have children. I actually commend them for waiting and doing what's best for themselves. My issue is childless women that love to come into groups for mothers, or getting into discussions and ridicule and shame mothers. Or brag about how they got an abortion because they are so much more responsible.

Recently, there was a mother on a popular blog sharing her story of how she had regrets about becoming a mother. She was open and honest about how she felt. She was obviously tired and overwhelmed. Many mothers have had regrets about becoming a mother, for whatever reasons. We as mothers should be able to share our feelings and express ourselves without having childless women bust in our safe space and ridicule us or boast about how they are doing so much better.
There have also been childless women making jokes about single mothers and expressing how they hate children. Yes, HATE!  If you are not a mother and don't plan on having children, why come into a discussion for mothers and make the discussion about YOU? Mothers, should be able to vent and share information with other mothers. We all have issues, regrets, and problems with parenting, even if we are married and have a strong support system. Most mothers go through trials that make us wonder if we should have become a mother. Mothers usually get over this as their children get older and they find peace as a mother. This is natural and we should be able to express ourselves in peace, without childless women coming to police us or point fingers at us. We go through enough that childless women would never imagine or understand.

If you chose to not have children or abort, or put your child up for adoption, feel free to do so.I applaud women for not having children. It's your right, it's your choice. No shame from me, but also respect mothers and allow them to vent. It reminds me of light skin women that invade safe spaces for darker women. Or slim women that cry out for attention when large women are venting.
If you want to brag about being a childless woman, go brag and boast with other childless women. Do not come into a parent group or a discussion for mothers. Many childless women are not even bragging, they are venting and meddling. It's almost like a hobby for childless women to pop into a discussion for mothers to whine about something or brag about how their birth control never failed them. We respect your decision to not become a parent, so please respect our safe space and allow us to have discussions in peace.

Parents of Special Needs children should be allowed to express their pain

After being in several groups for parents with special needs children, I have learned that everybody handles the conditions differently and have different support systems. Some talk about autism as if it is something that they love and they don't really feel a burden of raising autistic children. Many parents like to vent and get out frustrations, but are usually shamed and told to be strong. Some parents actually feel as if they are being punished for having a child with developmental delays. This is normal for parents to feel this way. I think that every parent should be able to express themselves and talk about their pain and hardships of raising a child with special needs. Even parents that have children without delays have good and bad days. I think parents should able to get upset and express their frustrations and have safe spaces to talk about parenting special needs children. I know that it is not easy. Some parents have great support systems and families that are reliable. Some parents don't have much family and don't have solid support systems or access to services for their children. Not to mention the financial hardships that many parents face.

Parents should be able to vent and express the pain they feel about raising their special needs children . Whether it's Autism, ADHD, CP, MR, ..... No parent should be told how to express themselves or how they should feel about raising special needs children. No parent should have to hold in their frustrations because they fear being judged for complaining.