Should single mothers work and attend college

This has been a touchy topic all over social media and within our communities. Should single mothers work and attend college?
Can single mothers work, raise children and attend college? I say yes. With another Yes! And another Yes!!! Obtaining a degree, license, or certificate doesn't take a lifetime. There are Weekend colleges, online classes, as well as night courses. Colleges are now more flexible and usually most classes can be taken at home in private. Some classes only require a few hours per week, which gives a mother more time for herself and meeting the needs of her children.
A working mom, can study at the table while her children are studying. See a mother read, and complete assignments will encourage children to read and spend time studying. Children usually are inspired to see their parents working and taking on new challenges. The goal is to become educated, start a business or get a better job. Having an education will open doors to better career opportunities such as promotions and management positions. Some mothers are increasing their skills and knowledge to start a small business so that they can have a flexible schedule for their children.

Men really love, need, and admire Strong Black Women

The "Strong Black Woman" phrase has often been associated with violent, loud, ghetto, rude, or masculine Black Women. People have taken the phrase "Strong Black Woman" and have coined it into something to be ashamed of. Men claim they resent "Strong Black Women" because of the negative traits that come with "Strong Black Women".

The same men that despise "Strong Black Women" really admire our strength and wish to have one in their life. Men want a strong, sane, financially independent woman.

Depending on which day of the week it is, men in the Black Community are complaining about women not submitting, then complaining about a woman should be going 50/50 on bills and rent Men need a "Strong Black Woman" to step in when he lose his job. When a man is sick, he need a strong woman to take care of him and see that his needs are taken care of. When the family is suffering financially, a man need his woman to stand up and be strong. Maybe even hold down the house until finances are back in order. Men act like they have this obsession with women submitting to them and their needs. The truth is, a submissive wife is a wife that needs to be taken care of. Mostly financially. So, all this crap about we hate "Strong Black Women", or "Strong Black Women" are dominate, overbearing and they emasculate their men, is just some rhetoric that men came up with to shame women and play victims. The truth is, Black Women were forced to take leading roles. We were forced to step in when fathers, brothers, and uncles went to prison, died, or abandoned the family. Black women were forced to stand up and take care of every member in some households. We all know a grandmother that took on more work and died early due to being forced into a strong position for the family. That took strength, commitment and work. It took a "Strong Black Woman"

My Best Advice for Single Mothers

10 things that single mothers should keep in consideration. My advice to mothers:

1. Your self worth is not determined by marriage or getting and keeping a man.

2. Being a single mother shouldn't stop you from dating or having sexual relations that are healthy.

3. Being a single mother is not a death sentence, you should be able to take breaks and enjoy some "me Time" This could include spa treatments, lunch dates, girls night at the movies, or a nature walk alone.

4.You don't have to settle because you are a single mother.  You do not have to settle for a broke unstable man.

5. As a single mother, you shouldn't have to give into struggle love, which is getting involved with a man that has nothing to offer but hardships and penis. This is the single guy that has no vehicle, still in college after multiple years with no degree, behind in child support and on probation/parole, or the brother that doesn't have his own housing or job. Don't feel like you have to struggle or support him because he's a nice guy struggling.

6.You need to rest. You are not a powerful machine. Lay down and rest. You don't have to stay up late every night washing clothes, dusting the furniture and trying to catch up on every show you recorded.

7. Invest in yourself. As stated before invest in beauty products, invest in your health, invest and save your money.

8. You are not a disease. Single mothers have been on planet earth since the beginning. Do not allow others to make you feel guilty for being a single mother. Don't ever let others discourage you or put shame on your for giving birth.

9. Be prepared for emergencies. Always have a close friend or a neighbor that you can go to in an emergency for childcare. Have money put away for emergencies.

10. Do not feel bad about splurging on something you really like. Maybe a new purse, makeup, perfumes, or a new pair of shoes.