Pain and Abuse, Let's talk about Domestic Violence (Part 1)

Victims of Domestic Violence in the Black community have been thrown under the  carpet for years. Women are being beaten down physically, mentally, and verbally without any help from the black family. The misconception that women can leave a violent relationship at any time is a myth. Some women are afraid to leave and some have been murdered for trying to get away for their abusers. Many women have nowhere to go and have been isolated from friends and family. Onlookers must take into consideration that many abusers keep their victims submissive and usually without resources or a means to get out. Some abused women have been abused for so long that they have become immune to abuse.

When young women children witness abuse in the home, they grow to feel like it's natural even though what they witnessed was painful. That is why so many women  get comfortable as a victim, because the abuse is close to home like putting on a pair of slippers. Even if they are slapped and hit everyday, they feel the physical pain, but they expect it. It's sad that women get into relationships and they already expect to be abused. They expect to be verbally and mentally abused. Some are so emotionally numb to this type of pain that they don't run with they see signs. Throughout my life I have witnessed so many other women in our black communities being abused by men. This behavior becomes expected to many victims of violence. It is easy to tell a woman to leave. Both just like the abuser, the victim is mentally weak and sometimes don't think leaving is an option.