The Miseducation of the Strong Black Woman

The "Strong Black Woman" slogan or phrase offends sensitive people to the extreme.  The term "Strong Black Woman" has so many men pretending to be offended by the term. The truth is, I rarely hear women refer to themselves as strong. To be precise, I've only heard a black woman refer to herself as a "Strong Black Woman" on a few occasions.

Men don't want a strong black woman, That want a soft submissive woman that will agree with everything they want, grant their wishes and submit to them hand and foot. When a woman says she is a strong black woman, she is not saying that she is combative, argumentative, or always ready to physically fight. Being strong is about overcoming your past, your pain, and whatever obstacles where thrown in your way. Being a strong woman is fighting battles with no fears and moving past broken hearts, set backs and past failures. For example, a person will call themselves strong because they were able to beat a drug addiction, or they were able to find housing and work after being homeless and jobless for many years. No woman or man is wrong for patting themselves on the back for overcoming past hardships.

So why is it offensive when a black woman wears the tittle of being strong? Why can't a woman have inner strength? Why is strength within a black woman a bad thing? Women give birth, nurture children, take care of families, yet we are not allowed to be strong. We are expected to be strong, but we cannot wear the tittle. That is like a good husband taking care of home, feeding the family, and paying all the bills, but can't say he is the provider for the household. That is the issue with black women saying it. We can be strong, but we can't tell anybody. Sssshhh!!!