Baby Moma vs Wife

I will start off by saying that a man should not allow his gf/wife to feud with his ex/mother of his child. Children should never be put in the middle of arguments and feuds. A good man will not play women against each other. Everyone should be responsible when going into a new relationship or ending an old relationship when children are involved.

It is often assumed that the ex/baby momma is jealous of the new relationship a man has with his new spouse. In some cases, the new gf is jealous of the baby momma because she is in the man's life permanently or at least until the child is 18 years old. A man will change girlfriends, sex partners, even wives over and over but the child and the child's mother are permanent. This can bring tension to a girlfriend because she knows that the ex and the child will always be in the man's life. Some women even look at the ex/baby momma as the other woman because the man has to interact with her. I hate that women think this way, it is unhealthy and unnecessary.


There are women that see the ex and the child/children as competition that will never go away. If you are a new girlfriend to a man with children, stay out of any drama between that man and his ex. After you depart from that man, he will still be attached to his child/children. You may be temporary. Chances are, you will not be in his life forever, that is the reality. So many women have regrets after investing in a man that was only temporary. I've had friends, co-workers and neighbors tell me how they got involved with a man that had a crazy relationship with the mother of his child/children. In the end, they were exhausted after a temporary situation that didn't result in a concrete relationship. My advice to all women..... You should never have to fight a man's battles with any of his ex's or baby mommas. A man should be responsible enough to fix any issues before he tries to court another woman. That might sound unrealistic for some, but a lot of stressful situations could and should be avoided.

In some situations, a man will encourage the feuding because it make him feel like a prize that two women are competing over. Some men use these unfortunate situations to feed his big ego. There are women that will play right into this and fight without realizing they are only building up his ego by playing a silly game of tug a war. A real man would never allow his ego to cloud his judgement.
For the record, I hate using the term "Baby Momma".