More women prefer to remain single longer

Women are no longer feeling the need to be confined to a relationship. More women are driven by career, financial security, education, and self sustainability. It is no longer a goal for women to graduate from college and walk down the aisle with a spouse. Women are getting married and having children later in life.

As I get older, I do not see a need to rush into a relationship and tie myself down to a spouse. Even casual dating can be draining and overwhelming. Trying to balance children, career, and mental health can be exhausting enough. Adding a relationship to the equation can feel like a full time job with no breaks or time off. Being in a relationship is like two adult baby sitting one another. Two adults trying hard to keep each other happy and occupied. It should come natural, instead of feeling like work..That may sound exaggerated, but the truth is relationships can feel like punching in a clock and working to make somebody happy. Especially if you have a mate that is clingy and wants to constantly stay connected through phone calls and text messages.

I met a young man a few months ago that constantly called me during work hours, Even after I told him I don't take personal calls during the day. He continued to text me and would get uneasy when I didn't text back or answer my phone. I had to cut him off immediately because I didn't want to be responsible for constantly checking my phone or constantly keeping another adult occupied. He didn't want to understand or hear me out when I told him I was busy and usually didn't want to be bothered when I get home from work. He didn't want to hear this, now mix that with a man with entitlement issues and you have a unhappy man. I'd rather stay single and not date until I am ready for something serious.

Men should be more Cautious after Cardi B admits to drugging and robbing Men

After watching the video of Cardi B admit that she has drugged and robbed men, I really hope men take this as a cautionary tale. Men should stop being so eager to bring women to their hotels or get a woman in their car. I can't count how many times I've had men try to come to my house within a few hours of meeting them. This is very dangerous because some men are thinking with their penis and don't think about the consequences of meeting up with a stranger. Men should also consider that just because you are going to meet up with a woman, doesn't mean that a woman is not incapable of having ulterior motives. Some women are vicious and have an agenda. A man may have sex on his mind while the woman is setting him up to be robbed or drugged so that she can take his wallet, car keys, money ect. This is not good, because so many men assume that women are weak and vulnerable. You just never know. That sexy chick in the short skirt just may have a plan to rob you. The lesson is that men can be robbed and raped as well. Too many men assume they are exempt from being robbed or sexually harmed by a woman. Men, stop taking pressing women to go home with you, YOU JUST MIGHT GET ROBBED!

Parents of Special Needs children should be allowed to express their pain

After being in several groups for parents with special needs children, I have learned that everybody handles the conditions differently and have different support systems. Some talk about autism as if it is something that they love and they don't really feel a burden of raising autistic children. Many parents like to vent and get out frustrations, but are usually shamed and told to be strong. Some parents actually feel as if they are being punished for having a child with developmental delays. This is normal for parents to feel this way. I think that every parent should be able to express themselves and talk about their pain and hardships of raising a child with special needs. Even parents that have children without delays have good and bad days. I think parents should able to get upset and express their frustrations and have safe spaces to talk about parenting special needs children. I know that it is not easy. Some parents have great support systems and families that are reliable. Some parents don't have much family and don't have solid support systems or access to services for their children. Not to mention the financial hardships that many parents face.

Parents should be able to vent and express the pain they feel about raising their special needs children . Whether it's Autism, ADHD, CP, MR, ..... No parent should be told how to express themselves or how they should feel about raising special needs children. No parent should have to hold in their frustrations because they fear being judged for complaining.

Fat shamming should not be accepted

In recent news online, there have been a frenzy about rapper Future turning down a plus size model from entering a club. Apparently, he didn't want any large women in the club that he was in. Whether he was performing at the club or the owner of the club, nobody should be turned away from a club because of their size. It is not illegal or a sin to be a larger person.
This type of discrimination is still acceptable and people are down playing the discrimination by saying it's just a preference. He doesn't have to date large/plus size women, marry a large woman, or even have plus size friends. But what he cannot do, is stop plus size people from entering public places. Different people have different views and are also using this as an opportunity shame overweight people. People have made derogatory memes and made fat shaming comments on Twitter/Fb and other social media platforms.

Should single mothers work and attend college

This has been a touchy topic all over social media and within our communities. Should single mothers work and attend college?
Can single mothers work, raise children and attend college? I say yes. With another Yes! And another Yes!!! Obtaining a degree, license, or certificate doesn't take a lifetime. There are Weekend colleges, online classes, as well as night courses. Colleges are now more flexible and usually most classes can be taken at home in private. Some classes only require a few hours per week, which gives a mother more time for herself and meeting the needs of her children.
A working mom, can study at the table while her children are studying. See a mother read, and complete assignments will encourage children to read and spend time studying. Children usually are inspired to see their parents working and taking on new challenges. The goal is to become educated, start a business or get a better job. Having an education will open doors to better career opportunities such as promotions and management positions. Some mothers are increasing their skills and knowledge to start a small business so that they can have a flexible schedule for their children.

The reactions from Survivng R.Kelly proves why Victims are Afraid to Come Forward

The reactions all over social media about Surviving R. Kelly shows why victims walk around in shame and never come forward. All over twitter/FB/YouTube, I've seen people accusing the victims of being fast ass girls, liars, hungry for fame, or blaming the parents. I can agree that the parents should have been more responsible with their children, the abused women are still victims. While watching Surviving R. Kelly I listened to testimonies that were more than just statutorily rape. I listened to stories of  mental abuse, domestic violence, and alienation. These victims all appeared to be weak and vulnerable while being involved with R. Kelly who is a powerful public figure. He is a superstar. Whether these young women were star struck or just weak for love and validation. They are still victims. Those women cried. I could see the pain in their faces as they relived the horror. Some people still think the abused women got what they wanted or that the woman are just seeking revenge. This is why abused people don't speak out, because they get the blame. So many victims get ridiculed for speaking out.

People are blaming the women saying things like: They were just desperate for money or they forced themselves on R. Kelly. This man used his money and authority to mentally damage these women. He may not be able to read very well. But he knew how to use mind manipulation to break down his victims. The same way most abusers keep their victims hostage. The same way an abusive man keeps his wife in a violent home.

So many people are triggered after watching Surviving R.Kelly

Surviving R. Kelly was very sad, sickening, and painful to watch for most viewers. For some, the show was just highlighting the wrong doings of a Musical Superstar. For many, the show Surviving R. Kelly brought back painful memories of childhood trauma and neglect. Surviving R. Kelly is a trending topic that really got people speaking out, debating, and pointing fingers. Some people want to blame the parents, the music industry, while some blame the underage girls for putting themselves in the presence of a predator. I blame the abuser. I blame any adult that abuses underage children and take advantage of anyone sexually. Not only is R. Kelly being accused of being a pedophile, he is accused of being violent and mentally abusive to women. For years allegations have been whispered, but because R. Kelly has put out some chart topping music, people have let his talent outshine everything, and have giving him the benefit of the doubt.

This is very triggering for victims. This is a reminder that child abusers are currently walking free and often are never punished. Many child molesters and woman abusers are not brought up on chargers because they intimidate their victims. Many victims have to walk with the guilt, shame, and trauma after being sexually abused. R. Kelly has used his status to dominate women and break them down spiritually and mentally. This happens so much in our communities and families. Uncles, Grandfathers, stepdads and other relatives sexually abuse children in the family and they get away with it. Sometimes because the child is too afraid to speak out, or because the family doesn't want the pubic to know that they had a child molester in the home. For example, a mother may cover up sexual abuse in her household because she doesn't want Child protective services and other social services in her business. She may not want Law Enforcement investigating her household. These are just a few reasons why abusers get away with abuse on children.

These children have to walk through life with permanent mental scars and traumatic memories that will continue to resurface. Social media has been fueled with triggered people that are still recovering from child abuse, sexual abuse, and other forms of mental abuse. Some people will never recover and don't know how to deal with the mental scars. Some people have blocked out years of abuse, but were triggered while watching the 6 hour series of Surviving R. Kelly. The triggering brings back painful memories.